For us quality time is not measured by the time we spend together but how we spend that time.
Engaging with the eyes or entangling ourselves with each others body can speak louder than any words. But don’t get me wrong sharing each other’s hearts can go a long way. One of our most enjoyable ways to spend quality time is at night. Once the kids are all tucked in, we love cuddling up next to each other, talking, and making each other laugh.
And then there are those little in betweens. These are moments we get sometimes throughout the day as we go through different scenarios with the funny things our kids do that we glance at each other and giggle (it feels so good when you know each other in that way.) With just one look we know exactly what each other is thinking. We must admit we do have a bit of a busy schedule, and not to mention a full house, so sometimes it is hard to find time but the moments we do we are intentional about making that quality time worth it.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, “Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.”
Tv shows and movies are good but they don’t allow you to know each other at a more intimate level. When all entertainment and distractions are taken out of the picture and all the places you go are closed, are you guys able to enjoy one another wherever you are?
Things outside of the marriage are sometimes the very things that the enemy uses to separate the unity on the inside. When spending quality time together those things around us should not be what’s important, instead we should focus all our attention on each other.
Devices such as smartphones, computers or tablets, can be dangerous as well. They can become like tiny parasites which suck the life out of you. With all the information you are constantly consuming, and all the social
media you are bombarded with daily, you can easily become so emotionally and mentally drained that you don’t even have anything left in you to talk to one another. Reading and seeing everyone else’s drama can cloud up your mind to the point where you don’t have any room left in you to deal with your own circumstances and realities.
We must keep in mind that our spouse is not our destination, but they are our partners as we travel in this journey called “life” together. We must make every moment count beacuse we don’t know until when we will have each other. Momentary problems and circumstances shouldn’t paralyze your life’s journey. So even if you don’t have a lot of time to spend together, make sure you are making the best out of your quality time with your spouse. No one knows you better than your spouse.
Here are some of the things we do that make our quality time much more special:
Reminiscing on how we met.
Sending each other emails or text with random compliments throughout the day.
Writing each other a letter and reading it to one another.
Asking each other questions about how to grow in our relationship or what we can do to make our relationship stronger.
Asking for forgiveness if we feel we have offended each other.
Telling each other what we enjoy most about one another.
Putting some music on and dancing with each other even if the kids are around, (they usually have fun and enjoy joining us.) When they’re present it’s fun seeing them smile as they look at us enjoying each other’s company.
(“Parents dont forget to model the marriage you want for your kids to have one day” – PJ )